Four years: confidence with support
Stories, friendships and small responsibilities grow through time and practice.
Around four, many children invent stories, seek out other children and take more initiative in everyday tasks. They still need closeness to work through conflict, prepare for transitions and try again. Offer limited choices, conversation and movement without turning each moment into a test.
You can try
- Invite them to tell you about something that happened and listen without correcting every detail.
- Practise taking turns with a short cooperative game.
- Let them prepare one part of a routine and help when asked or needed.
Reviewed sources
BabyBright, on your phone too
Keep observations, routines and memories in one place. Use BabyBright in your browser or download the app for everyday moments.
Notice progress without comparing
Use observations to understand your child and prepare useful questions.
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“I can do it”: small tasks with your help
Offer participation without expecting more than your child can manage.
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The first year, one step at a time
Looks, gestures, sounds and movement tell a story that changes every week.
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