Encourage effort with specific words
Describe an action rather than giving your child a label.
“You tried again” says more than “You are the best.” Notice a strategy, a request for help or a kind gesture. You do not have to comment on every movement or reward every attempt. Quiet attention also matters.
You can try
- Observe a specific action before speaking.
- Say what you saw: “You turned the piece and now it fits.”
- If it does not work, offer company or a break before another attempt.
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