Why does my child cry when I leave, and how can I help?
Use brief, predictable goodbyes to build security over time.
Separation anxiety can appear in babies, toddlers, and preschoolers. It often feels stronger with tiredness, hunger, illness, or change, and it does not mean attachment is failing.
You can try
- Create a short, repeatable ritual: one phrase, one gesture, and a clear goodbye.
- Describe your return in terms your child understands, such as after nap or before snack.
- Practice brief separations with a familiar caregiver, and avoid disappearing without goodbye or returning repeatedly.
Reviewed sources
BabyBright, on your phone too
Keep observations, routines and memories in one place. Use BabyBright in your browser or download the app for everyday moments.
Help everyone feel they belong
Make space for different needs, siblings and family stories.
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Meltdowns after daycare: making the return home gentler
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